Cup of tea with Aisha

 Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah 🌻 how's everything? The pause has had an good impact. I've done mindfulness exercises every day, and focused a little more in this world and all that is going on currently. And right now I'm, once again, learning about the right balance.  ... As a muslim, I am not supposed to be attached to this world, dunya, because it is temporary. The temptations there are, are making it easy to let desires lead one's life. And lead it astray. To me, for example, it doesn't take much. If I slip on few steps, I will feel very quickly I have gone more distant from Allah (swt). That only brings me emptiness.  So an easy way might not be a good way. But balance is not an either - or. It's found in the middle. ... I love nature. Animals, plants, the sun, the moon. Wind, rain, snow. Ocean and forest. I dream of a simple life, and to feel rooted in the Earth. Because this world, as we know it, doesn't exist only in vain. It is filled with beauti...

 Assalamu aleikum dears. How are you today? 🌻 Past weeks.. phew. I feel my brain is working overtime. I'm trying to solve million problems, have same time some good insight about them, then help my friends solve theirs.. trying to be present, trying to get the best wisdoms out of myself.. trying to be a good muslim and spiritually awaken, mend my personality and better my character.  I might be exaggerating just a little, but all in all, it won't happen. I won't get wonderful results in the end of this week, not even in the end of this year. It's fine. No worries.. I don't need to. I need to pause. ... It's probably very common to overthink, especially in stressful times. An anxious person is easily drawn to ponder about the issues that cause them anxiety, which will - cause more anxiety. So.. should I just stop resolving the problems? How that will help? One of the worst things to say to someone who is very stressed, is "just relax". If they could sw...

 Assalamu aleikum, today I have a heavier subject again.. ..Shame. It's a word that can almost manifest itself only by read or said aloud. And feeling ashamed.. can make one feel small, embarrassed, even worthless. Opposite of pride. The kind of pride a person needs, to be able to be proud of oneself. To be proud to be who you are. I've thought a lot lately about social anxiety. It has been always controlling my life at some level. It has a lot to do with how I've succeeded, or haven't succeeded in things I would have wanted to. And the feeling of being trapped inside myself, not being able to express myself fully and freely. And the social anxiety goes, at least in my case, hand in hand with shame. I've always had that feel that there's just so much wrong in me, and I'm simply not as good as everyone else, just never good enough. Not good enough to have any talent, skill, or good enough to pursue my dreams. Or to have real friends. To be worthy of anyones l...

 Assalamu aleikum 🌻 how's everything? So I want to start writing my story again and more real this time. I will write about all kinds of things, but a deep sea fish that I am, I will probably talk about some heavy issues. I hope it won't scare you away, and I hope it won't become a source of gossip either. Just what do we really have, if we don't hold onto the truth?  But I'll share some recipes and bring back monthly fave lists etc. in sha Allah, so no worries 🌻 ... When I wrote last time that there has happened something, well, I recently remembered a trauma. It has been always in the back of my head, but before, I never really knew for sure. But once I really started to remember..  Now it has turned my world upside down. There's so many questions that keep disturbing me. A strange feel of relief, too, from finally getting answers and reasons. I'm not sure am I feeling strong or vulnerable. I'm used to being anxious and stressed.. To my surprise, I d...

 Assalamu aleikum everyone! 😊❤ How are you doing? It feels great to start over. For those who don't know, I used to write a blog with the same title, "Cup of tea with Aisha", for around five years until I decided to demolish the whole thing. 😌 And it felt good. It was one part of my journey, finding myself and healing, and also about all the stumbling along the way. But now that part, is a part of the past. I'm still on that same journey, but on another level - a lot has happened and changed. So this is it, same me but maybe a different perspective.. I hope that with sharing my thoughts and insights, you may find yourself not feeling alone with yours. ❤ in sha Allah. ... In my profile, I tell I write about daily life, food, beauty, travel, islam, mental health and relationships. So, for an introduction, here's a brief 411 of these subjects in my life.. Daily life Right now, my daily life is very simple. In Finland everyone starts by asking about work or school, ...