If it's not my fault

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 Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah dears :) how are u doing?


Alhamdulillah. I'm not fasting now for few days. I was quite disappointed but alhamdulillah for everything. Have to take this break as a little blessing, now I can be schedule free for few days. Always get up and try again. But before that, a pause.





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I was thinking today about guilt and shame. Those can be healthy feelings, which indicate we have done something wrong, either to others or we have wronged ourselves. But many times we carry those feelings with us in daily lives and as a burden. They can be so overpowering too. Guilt and/or shame can stop us for living the way we want to.

Especially if you have made tawbah, and asked forgiveness for your sins, you should believe in that forgiveness Allah swt has promised us. 

Sometimes it can be about the other person. I know personally it's so difficult for me to blame someone else that I rather just blame myself for the things others people have done to me.

I know blaming doesn't help either. But it can be a freeing thought to understand that the other person did a mistake, and we were kinda just collateral damage on the way. What other people do or say, it tells about them and not that much about us than we usually think.


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I threw away some memorable items and I feel better. That was what sparked in my mind these thoughts. I don't have to be the bad guy anymore. In any case. I'm tired of carrying that cloak, that it has always been about the wrongness with me. In sha Allah I hope the people will understand still one day that I wasn't so bad or flawed after all. 

It's not always my job to apologize. And I even have. 


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Well, anyways, today more in the deep waters. I hope you are fine and well, and thank you for reading. 


Until next time then,


Aisha



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  1. AnonymousMarch 15, 2025 at 2:04 PM

    As salaamu aleykkum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh 🌹

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  2. Aisha ElinaMarch 15, 2025 at 3:28 PM

    Wa aleikum salam wr wb 😊🌷

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